"How did a Mother Lose Custody of her Only Child and what was the Abuse by the Grandparents?"
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- Created: Sunday, 11 December 2011 15:27
- Written by Alecomm2
Okay, well to brief you quickly, my mother is a control freak. Her way or no way.
So when she applied to courts for custody she only wanted control over me. She always did have as I was brought up like a door mat.
When I was fourteen I was convinced to buy a block of land in their name $11,000. Have paperwork that I paid them out at 18 when I was LEGALLLY old enough to purchase land, and they never signed it over. Ripped off.
They went for custody when my daughter was almost five and going to school in 5 months. The weren’t interested in looking after her when she was still in nappies, but when ready for school they were ready for their extra $400 per week instead of measly pension.
That’s when it started. I got a crappy legal aid solicitor (Dennis hannigan and his son) and instead of stomping the matter out in the first instance I got placed into orders where my daughter went there overnight 1 night per week and 1 weekend per month.
I told the solicitors that it was all about control but they weren’t interested, they only wanted their settlement out of court and told me if I didn't settle they might get more time with my daughter.
I agreed but before told them about the control freak my mother was --- too much to explain but she (I'm pretty sure) either killed her brother with a brick when she was 11ish and her father hated her and punished her for it and it fucked her up and everybody felt sorry for her because she always said it was an accident and they always gave her whatever she wanted ie poor cherry poor cherry. Hard life etc.
So, as soon as court orders that should not have ever existed – (because I didn’t have sex with my mother and make a bub with her) kicked in, she started abusing my daughter. Here are some of the things she did. MBP does spring to mind, and my nanna said she reckoned my mother had it also – Munchhausen. Like half these nurses stealing babies and making out they saved them when in actual fact they're just causing them to be abused and abusing them by denying breast milk and colostrum etc :
- My daughter had my mother take her to Toukley heated pool and let her play in and out of the hot and cold pools there. They told her not to say anything but she accidentally told me …
- This is major psychological abuse - Forcing a child to start lying to a person they love to pacify another person they love. So very frustrating.
- I had my daughters ears pierced – so when they had her overnight I explained they were not to get her headOf course they washed her hair and this caused infection.
- After I became suspicious of my father’s behaviour (for some years) and provable with affidavits by my cousin – whom I don't get along with and the affidavits were written to assist my mother’s case – I made it clear under no circumstances was my daughter to sleep in my fathers bed or anybody else’s for that my mother and father have had separate beds for years and years now. They didn't care and they did this as my daughter told me – yet again after being told to lie to me about this – and when I approached my father about it he said “what we do with my daughter when she is with us is nothing to do with you”.
- The list went on and they continued to mentally and psychologically abuse my daughter to the point that she couldn’t be as honest with me as she had always been – which was how I had brought her up - ie I didn't care if something was broken and wouldn’t humiliate and belittle her if she told me theI wanted my daughter brought up with confidence and not like myself, humiliated and belittled and brought up to believe I wasn’t good enough etc.
- And then the crux came when my daughter came home and told me the boy next door told her that he would play cops and robbers with her if she would lick his bits.
- My life fellWe talked some more. She said he had been on top of her. He had hurt her.
- It was my fault I had not protected her.
- However prior to this I had phoned the family courts, telling of the abuse, I had phoned the police, the federal police, my solicitor, anybody to tr4y and get them to listen to me that my daughter was being
Nobody cared. And then my daughter’s life was changed forever because of it and because I didn’t have the balls to punch my parents in the face the first time they abused my girl.
After that I stopped contact and packed up and moved to Queensland where she was born and where her father was.
Judge ordered her to live with them because I denied them contact, and because they wrote enough bullshit and I only had truth it didn’t matter.
Like I said I basically haven’t seen my daughter since. Thirty solicitors later – nobody wanted the case because legal aid wouldn’t t pay enough money to cover all the Steven Spielberg affidavits my mother wrote – I finally found a solicitor – Donald William Wakeling – and I thought things were going to be okay – finally after give years – and then guess what?
I got court ordered contact once a fortnight for an hour at Newcastle court – and my mother was drinking and driving to Newcastle courts (1 hour form home) with my daughter in the car.
Nobody cared then. Nobody would breathalyse her. I know this because I busted her walking out of Halekulani bowling club which I was driving past on my way up to the courts – fluke timing.
When things should have changed in final orders with this solicitor Donald William Wakeling – NOBODY SENT ME PAPERWORK FOR THE HEARING. And I didn’t even get a chance to go.
I tried to be as brief as possible. Sorry if it is too long, but I guess none of our cases are short.
